The Difference Between “Jerking Off” and “Masturbating”

It’s Monday again! Let’s talk about Masturbating.

As if we really ever talked about anything else on this site, right? Silly.

But I’ve been having a good time with the Monday Masturbators series. While we don’t do a lot of scheduled content here (Tuesdays aren’t the days I post testicles or anything. Although #testicletuesday is still very near to my heart), it’s nice to have a day to feature hot guys who are sharing their masturbation with everybody and talk about why this still matters.

What I wanna address today are some of the real, visceral differences between perfunctory or performance jack offs and deep, Penis-worship masturbation. These are ideas that are easily and regularly conflated on tumblr and elsewhere.  Any notion of a guy stroking his own penis is often piled into one ‘masturbation’ or ‘jack off’ tag and dispensed with.

But to those who spend any real time studying and taking care of their own penises, there’s some significant differences. I found this amazing video of this wicked hot and mostly unselfconscious dude (who I sadly cannot identify but am definitely taking details, if you know anything about him), working his dong pretty good for the camera. Now it’s only about four minutes long and he doesn’t nut here, but it’s still gonna be a great illustration of what I’m talking about:

That’s pretty sweet right? If you’re not someone who regularly watches videos on Bateworld or XTube of guys who describe themselves as bators, then that may have felt rather bland. And that’s not an accident. What you just watched was, ironically, not meant to be performance. Not really.

Male masturbation is, especially in a true solo capacity, something that men can get lost in. It’s like a drug-based experience in some ways, and that is likely why substances like weed or poppers often help guys to really masturbate with abandon. If you don’t know anything about trance states, that might be a good way to begin to understand what deep bate is all about.

This guy is a wonderful example because you can actually see him dip in and out of awareness of the camera and the idea of an audience. He also has a really genuine-sounding penisbabble (or cockbabble) going.  It evolves into a rolling mantra of “penis,” and “masturbate my penis,” and “masturbation,” after he’s said everything several times.

Here’s a couple gifs to illustrate the real differences between masturbation and jerking off.

Bate is not performance-based.

This guy knows he’s sexy and his desire to share his masturbation surely comes out of that, but in this gif especially, you can see him fall back into penis pleasure and endorphin release, and then sort of pop back into reality.

It’s not about looking cool.

Nobody has ever looked sexy or cool immediately after poppers. That’s why it’s hot to watch somebody who’s masturbating popper up. You know that everything right after those sniffs is going to be authentic physical response to pleasure and sensory overload. Poppers are like a mild truth serum that lets you show the true dumbness of your worship. This guy isn’t trying to make porn. He’s splaying himself out, sexually, in one of the most honest ways possible.

It’s all about getting gone.

Slack-jawed, half-lidded grimaces of pleasure and confusion are the order of the day here. If you have the presence of mind to wonder how your face looks, or to pull any sexy faces or sexy body movements, you’re not there yet. Studio porn has really taken a backseat in my masturbation ritual because porn performance is often limited.  If you’re trying to hit marks, or display your good side, or catch your lighting, or do any of those things for a scene partner, your focus is on that. It’s not on Penis. To really worship and bring yourself into understanding of Penis, you can’t be that coherent.

For my money, there is nothing more beautiful than watching a man pleasure his dong. Watching him as he writhes and groans and smiles and whimpers around his own fist. I want to look at him and know that it isn’t about showing off and it isn’t about him trying to win fans by looking sexy or flexing or showing off an impressive penis. I want to know that he is completely and veritably lost in the crests of pleasure and endorphin release.

I want to know he’s lost in his Penis and that – until he’s finished – nothing else matters.

That’s a really special place to be able to get to. I often can’t find my way there without 420 and poppers. It helps to have a buddy with whom you can be entirely unselfconscious with (the way only two men really can be). It’s good practice and sense memory buildup for when you’re penising solo.  If you don’t have someone to explore your masturbation and how to get deeper into it, I highly recommend either making some new friends, or hiring.

Or else resigning yourself to a lifetime of aggressive and detached genital grinding while you shut your eyes and think of something other than what’s really happening.

But that sounds gross to me.

-t

UPDATE:  This guy in the video is a real fucking guy. And he is incredible! He was kind enough to connect on Tumblr and chat quickly about this post and his bate. His name is Marcel and you should absolutely be following both his tumblr and his XTube channel for glorious, spermy, popper-fueled examples of what I’ve talked about here. M, if you’re reading this – love you man. Keep it the fuck up.