Take five minutes out of your day and think about penises both cosmic and personal.
I use the #contemplate-your-penis hashtag on tumblr a lot. I think it’s an important and universal behavior that men tend to overlook in favor of looking at other penises. But I know men (myself included!) who have attested to learning a great deal just by spending time with their own genitals. Just being present in their own bodies.
There’s no prescribed way that this can or should take place. When I was very young, it used to be in the bath. It was my primary and guaranteed ‘alone’ time, and even though I was naked a lot day-to-day, it was a place I knew I could fixate on my penis without someone saying something or feeling awkward about it. As a kid I would spend lots of time holding and staring at my penis without thinking sexual thoughts or even really masturbating (I held off till I was eleven to do that properly). It was just a ‘getting to know you’ time, and endlessly fascinating as my body changed and developed.
As an adult, my time to contemplate my penis – to think about how it looks and feels – is usually in the midst of masturbation. I’ll be jacking and be super close to cumming and just momentarily become enraptured by the beauty of my penis and sensation that it is capable of producing. And so I’ll stop what I’m doing and just hold it, feel it throb and bounce a little. Skin it back and squeeze it so the head becomes extra engorged. And I’ll think about all the men I know who have done similar things and felt similar things and about this unique and strange way that we are all connected through this behavior and this pleasure, whether we share and discuss it, or not. All males who have lived or will live with a penis.
It’s profound. And even though it doesn’t feel like it every single time I jack off, that’s when it feels the best. When I realize that even though the practice is solo, the response and the tumescence and pleasure are universal and transcendent.
So I encourage you to find time to think today about penises and stimulation and pleasure for about five minutes. I found this short video of a beautiful uncircumcised penis that its owner is clearly very proud to posses. Revel in the aesthetic beauty – its symmetry and plumpness – and watch as it engorges out of it’s foreskin and the cloth unable to constrain or cover it.
Let your mind wander to what the penis inspires in you. When I watched I kept imagining how it might smell and the carnal physical pleasure that both its owner and I would experience with it in my mouth. It was utterly impossible not to hold and stroke my own penis while I fixated on this fantastic specimen.
Headphones would be perfect for this, as it’s scored by a 5 minute Root Chakra (or muladhara) alignment mediation:
The Root Chakra influences your physical vitality, physical survival instincts, “fight or flight” response, and the emotions of anger, jealousy, desire and greed. The Muladhara or Root Chakra governs the lessons of surviving the material world. This Chakra holds information involving family loyalty, superstitions and beliefs, and your ability to stand up for yourself; your sense of safety, self esteem, and security are based here. The Root Chakra controls the energy of instincts, physical pain, pleasure, and touch. Imbalance in the Muladhara may manifest as losing interest in survival in the “real world”, physical addictions and obsessions, selfishness, restlessness, volatile emotions and a lack of vitality.
Even if you don’t buy into the cosmic connection of penises throughout the world and time, you’d be hard pressed to find a more beautiful example than that one. I’d love to know more about it, but sadly the video comes from an unsourced post promoting some shitty dating site.
If we could get to a place where penises and penis pleasure were more universally accepted and recognized as special and amazing, guys like this wouldn’t be afraid to share their bodies or their pleasure and the concept of the faceless, nearly disembodied genital would disappear entirely. But that’s a post for another day.
Contemplate your penis, brother. Your penis is beautiful.