The best lesson to take away from all of it is that one should be actively aware and present when stepping into these spaces. For me, in particular, going in with a baseline understanding of “this isn’t really real” helps to temper the emotional swings of rage and pleasure I know are coming my way.
Words are Important: The Accepted Shame of Calling Genitals “Privates”
There is no time or situation where “privates” is the best choice of word, and the power that it possesses to reinforce learned cultural shame about our genitals, and the unacceptability of our sex parts, is transparently dangerous.
The world has been crazy, and I have been quiet.
You know what that means! Hi friends! I’ve really missed coming in here to talk about cool stuff or people or art I love. But life is just so weird all the time now. And my job is weird to begin with. As an online naked person and escort, it feels in some strange way […]
Uncomfortable Asks: Is a Male Escort the Best Way to Get Back Into Dating?
Uncomfortable Asks is my infrequent advice column, where I directly address (with permission) letters or messages sent to me in a more elaborate and thoughtful fashion than I might be able in just a regular reply. Ask your own Asks here. Dear Tyler, I’ve never been with a sex worker, and I haven’t had sex […]
An Interview with Artist and Illustrator Bruno B.
Bruno B.’s work is a part of the Tom of Finland canon and is significant in its sexualizing of bara-type masculine bodies in Handjobs and other publications.
Father’s Day: A Long Talk with Dad, the Creator of Handjobs Magazine
“It all began when we used to write each other bedtime stories and hide them under each other’s pillows so we could discover them when we went to bed. In April 1991 we had enough of these stories to photocopy them at work, bring them home, and fold and staple them together into crude magazines.”