Uncomfortable Asks is my infrequent advice column, where I directly address (with permission) letters or messages sent to me in a more elaborate and thoughtful fashion than I might be able in just a regular reply. Ask your own Asks here. Dear Tyler, I’ve never been with a sex worker, and I haven’t had sex […]
If you are a sex worker, particularly if you are a male-ID’d sex worker, who is struggling right now: I see you and you matter. Your work matters. And it is real work. We will get through this.
We talk a lot about masturbation and bate practices here, and have great cause to frequently say the word “bator” and “bate,” and I am cautious to use the correct spellings of each word, as they are clearly and logically derived from larger terms.
Here’s some free security stuff you can be doing day-to-day to ensure your info is a little less accessible to folks who might want to cause problems. June is Pride month (or it was when this was originally posted over at thesword.com)! But as far as we’ve come with rights and equality, there’s plenty […]
Dear Tyler, I see male escorts and dancers regularly and am quite familiar with some of them. We seem to get along well at first but they drift away and later start avoiding me. I try my best to be respectful, and take care of them. What am I doing wrong? – Anonymous Welcome, Anon. […]
Guys. Seriously. A little over a year ago, Part 1 of this discussion was posted to a surprisingly good reception. It even seemed to invite a lot (I’m not kidding, a lot!) of suggestions and demands for a follow up about douching. But I gotta tell you. We are not ready to talk about […]