You said at one point that you felt “known.” I think that’s maybe the heart of all of this. I also think it might be what people are seeking, whether they are aware of it on any level at all, or not. Being seen and understood by someone (or many someones).
Words are Important: The Accepted Shame of Calling Genitals “Privates”
There is no time or situation where “privates” is the best choice of word, and the power that it possesses to reinforce learned cultural shame about our genitals, and the unacceptability of our sex parts, is transparently dangerous.
icametosin: Fleshing Out The Bodies Your Porn Ignores
“It may be normal, darling; but I’d rather be natural.” It’s no real secret that “white guys with abs” are pretty much what lots of (most?) gay men envision when they think of “sexy.” What they consider “normal.” It’s why the Austin Wolfs and Ryan Roses of the world have attained the degree of […]
Keep Your Secrets Secret: Secure Email Edition
What to do to keep your communications under your control, and why you should do it. This post has been a long time in the making, and my apologies if you came in here today expecting some swinging foreskin, or slutty comics. This one is très serious and I’ll need your full attention please. […]
Louis CK and the Ending of “Magic Mike”
Louis CK is most men at 49: he just wants a boyfriend. Unpopular opinion: gay culture has spoiled what it means for men to have sex and share love. Let me explain: I have met a truly shocking number of men who either discover late in their life that they are desirous of masculine […]
“How Being A Professional Companion Taught Me To Be A Better Boyfriend” by Tyler Dårlig Ulv
Hey! That’s me! I wrote a little article for Thought Catalog and I’d love it very much if you’d read it. Here’s an excerpt: [vc_separator type=’small’ position=’center’ color=’#707070′ thickness=” up=’15’ down=’15’] How Being A Professional Companion Taught Me To Be A Better Boyfriend by Tyler Dårlig Ulv | MAY 8, 2017 A little […]