While it might seem like something everybody already knows, basic terminology and an understanding of biology and anatomy can help us talk about sex and sexuality in a more thorough and reality-based manner.
Sex organs are considered any part of the body that is involved in sexual reproduction (that’s a narrow qualifier, I know. We’ll discuss it more later). The primary sex organs in humans are the testis (in biological male bodies) and the ovary (in biological female bodies). The testis in pairs are called testes or testicles. On this blog we’re gonna use a lot of satellite terms for them, including balls, eggs, nuts, nards, and more.
The term genitals is used to describe externally visible sex organs. In biological male bodies these are the penis and scrotum (the ballbag where the testicles live and work). When we talk about genitals or genitalia here, this is most often to what we are referring. Because I’m an enthusiast and not a scientist, the balls are included when I say “genitals,” even through they are technically considered internal sex organs.
Also because we are talking about sexual pleasure and stimulation beyond (well beyond) reproductive function, we’re going to come across lots of references to body parts that may not fit the tight confinements of these definitions. The nipples, anus, and ballback are not technically sex organs by classification, but are just as integral for some bators as the penis or the testicles.
Sex parts is a looser term that we’ll use to define areas, organs, or groups of body parts that turn people on, are incorporated in masturbation, and likely don’t have anything at all to do with biological reproduction.
Though it might seem like an object of common knowledge to the more experienced among us, the glory hole is an oft-maligned and misunderstood prop or piece of sex scenery.
A glory hole is an opening carved, cut, or drilled intentionally into the dividing wall of a restroom stall at such a height that an erect penis can be easily inserted and attended to by the seated occupant of the adjoining stall. Once relatively common in cruising sites and gay bars and clubs, you see glory holes in public spaces less and less these days.
I’ve long been fond of the ‘hole’s a hole’ mantra that accompanies a real glory hole discovered in the wild. How gay (or not) your penis adventure is depends entirely on how strong your imagination is about what’s on the other side of the wall. And we all know I’m an advocate for bored dads at shopping centers finding joy where they can.
While the necessity is the mother of invention-style glory holes are my personal favorite (I grew up going to a mall bathroom which featured a tape-covered glory hole that provided a lot of entertainment during breaks from my shifts as a food court barista), it is relatively common to see intentionally crafted glory holes in saunas or sex clubs, and there are a few indie creators who have even developed collapsable “glory holes” in their homes, made from plywood or curtains dividing a doorway. These generate the spirit of a proper glory hole, but the spontaneity and authenticity of a real truckstop glory hole adventure is always lacking.
If we’ve ever talked about penising or what I do in my free time, I’m sure I’ve tried at some point to convince you to go to a group thing with me. Group sex is one of my all time favorite things.
While it can seem overwhelming or intimidating to the uninitiated, group sex is a phenomenal way to normalize male sexual activity, masturbation, and connection. Some folks might envision an over the top Eyes Wide Shut- style orgy situation, but the reality is that the best group sex environments provide guidelines, supplies, and moderation to help everyone feel safe and participate as much or as little as they want.
The New York Jacks is a great example of this – they provide a safe and comfortable space, endless penis grease, and an environment governed by their rules about masturbation-focused sex (no sucking, no penetrative action, no drugs). There is little pressure to perform or to be stereotypically “hot,” and men typically find it easy and comfortable to share something ordinarily quite private with an enthusiastic and kind group of other supportive masturbators.
Group sex, whether in a club, party, or bathhouse environment, can be a fantastic way to grow more comfortable with your own sexuality, and to see that there are lots of other people just like you! They like what you like, and they want to see and be seen. You are not alone.