Manga (Japanese: 漫画 ) are comics or graphic novels originating from Japan, or from other regions imitating this Japanese style. Most manga adhere to styles developed in Japan in the late 19th century, but the art form has a long prehistory in earlier Japanese art and erotic works. The term manga is used in Japan to refer to both comics and cartooning. Outside of Japan, the word is typically used to refer to comics originally published in the country or comics mimicking that style.
The sort that we’re most frequently concerned with are Yaoi and Bara manga. Yaoi (Japanese: やおい) is the general term for fiction concerning “boys’ love” (although we’re not sharing or discussing anything featuring minors here, that is occasionally a facet of some underground Yaoi) and is traditionally created by female artists for a largely female audience.
Bara (薔薇, “rose“) is the general term for gay manga, or gay comics focused on male same sex love, and featuring graphic depictions of MM sexual scenarios. Occasionally wrongly conflated with Yaoi, Bara is widely considered to be a subgenere of more typical men’s erotica and closely resembles manga for straight male readers, rather than female-targeted Yaoi works. They are distinct.
Bara tends toward hyper-masculine depictions of maleness, with bodies drawn muscular and hairy, and characters exhibiting stereotypically masc traits.
Bara and gay manga as an art style is a relatively recent (within the last 30 years) development, but has deep roots tracing back to the Edo period in Japan. Male/male erotica enjoys a long and commonly understood history in Japan, and elicits different (though no less complex) social perceptions compared to such artwork in western culture.
The term “bara” itself was historically used in a derogatory fashion toward gay men, but experienced a reclamation beginning in the 1960s and 70s.
It’s the core focus of this whole site, so let’s define what we mean when we say masturbation!
For our purposes, masturbation is the sexual stimulation of one’s own genitals (or sex parts) for sexual arousal or other sexual pleasure, often (but not necessarily) to the point of orgasm and ejaculation. This stimulation can involve hands, fingers, masturbation tools, or any combination thereof.
Whether practiced solo or with a partner or group, masturbation is a form of sex.
There is no causal relationship known between masturbation and any form of mental or physical disorder, and it is widely considered a normal and healthy part of sexual enjoyment. Restraint from masturbation has never been scientifically or clinically demonstrated to produce positive physical or behavioral changes in men, and groups or literature purporting otherwise are always deserving of “source, please?” suspicion from anyone and everyone.
These are devices, contraptions, or accessories used to enhance or facilitate masturbation. Commonly referred to as sex “toys,” I am of the belief that calling them toys trivializes their existence and the seriousness of their function. This contributes to a cultural perception of “naughtiness” or unacceptability (which is rooted in shame) about sex and the necessity of arousal and sexual stimulation in humans.
Think of it this way: you wouldn’t call all your kitchen utensils “cooking toys” and hide them in a box in the cupboard when your friends came over. I’m sure I’m in good company when I state that my Fleshlight is far more valuable to me and my continued sanity than all my spatulas combined.
Popular masturbation tool categories include things like masturbators (Fleshlights and Tenga Eggs), dongs and dildos, vibrators, cockrings, ball stretchers, and any manner of genital or sex part enhancers or stimulators. Even sex furniture qualifies.
- Masturbators are men who openly and proudly declare that they came to penis their penises. Masturbators are the heroes of this blog and guys like Proudbator and Blackey Madison deserve your attention, praise and money. Masturbators are guys who can laugh and smile through their bate, and aren’t afraid to show you what it looks like when they are aroused, or when they cum.
This word is never to be used in a derogatory fashion. Rather it describes a particular sort of man who is unashamed of his penis, his sexuality, and our collective lifelong fascination with jackin it. Adopting a sense of pride around this idea – the same way you might if you were a runner or painter or drummer – is a way to normalize masturbation and gently combat harmful ideas associated with toxic masculinity. Even if you start small and only say it to yourself, enjoy the smile that warms your face when you proclaim “I’m a masturbator.”
My name is Tyler the Badwolf and I am a fukkin’ masturbator <3
- Masturbator may also refer to any number of different sex or masturbation tools. These are things like strokers and sleeves that may be produced under brands like Fleshlight or Tenga. In this context, a masturbator is anything which masturbates or may be used for masturbation: a Fleshlight, a melon, a Pringles can stuffed with sponges.
A loaded and (ironically) delicate abbreviation for “masculine,” often used in apps and profiles to define someone as performing or presenting as a stereotypically heterosexual man.
I don’t know at all how to answer when someone asks if I’m “masc” and it strikes me as something of a red flag when someone is preoccupied with perception in this manner before you even meet.
Largely also a synonym for “straight acting,” or intentionally trying to pass oneself off as heterosexual.
See also: Toxic Masculinity