This is literally just any time you aren’t obligated to wear clothing, either communally or alone. Saunas, locker rooms, showers, massage parlors, mens’ resorts, and clothing optional beaches all afford ample opportunity to live a little closer to the male animal you really are under that suit and tie.
One thing that folks often say when talking about being or being seen in any of the above named spaces is that they “could never” see themselves taking part. That can be exactly the sort of person who benefits from intentional naked time, though. And naked time can be a powerful tool toward combating shame. One of the reasons we can feel discomfort or awkwardness in quasi-public no-clothes spaces, is because we are simply not familiar with the sensations and being of being naked! Think about how much time you spend each day without any clothes on – it’s probably not much, is it? We jump from sleep clothes into underwear and street or work clothes at the top of our day, and maybe we come home and change into home clothes or sweatpants at the end, before ultimately jumping back into sleep clothes.
Our typical naked time is in between those costume changes, and often all by ourselves. It’s very understandable to imagine fear, anxiety, discomfort and uncertainty about being naked for longer than we’re accustomed. And most people can add an exponent to those feelings when strangers are there to witness your naked time. The thing is, whatever our perceived flaws or physical failings might be, those spaces are the last place they truly matter. This might seem counterintuitive. But it is unlikely that you’ll ever be the oldest, or the fattest, or the baldest, or the youngest or the skinniest person on Haulover beach in Miami at any given time. And while some sweaty handjobs might be exchanged in naked places like the Russian Turkish Baths in NYC, those largely are’t sex and cruising places. All-male nonsexual nudity is a trust establishing playground. It helps men feel more comfortable around each other and can temper the evolutionary anxiety we experience about the threat of other males.
Jack off clubs are another story, but are still some of the most accepting and (again, counterintuitively) least stressful places to allow your body and your amazing penis be seen and appreciated. Giving others permission to see what social rules dictate are “secret” or “private” parts of your body is a liberating experience for you and for others.
Learning how to simply be naked (and having folks see you naked is a part of that), is a huge step toward learning how to be comfortable in your own skin. Not ready for ‘public’ nudity? Start small. Set some intentional time aside to be totally naked this week. Do the dishes, fold the laundry, watch The Crown – but do it naked and acclimate your balls to the freedom that naked time affords.
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Intensely pumped male nipples often feature exponentially amplified sensation and pleasure stimulation. Because of this, some bators (nipple bators) refer to their nipples as an extra set of dicks, with sensation on par with that of penile stimulation. Nippledicks are incredible and this type of body-mod commitment to masturbatory pleasure is really just aces.
Nipple pumping and nipple enhancement has become more and more common the last few years, as more men become familiar with the practice, and more nipple-focused masturbation tools become commercially available.
Nipple pumping refers to the practice of applying intense suction to the nipple and (sometimes) the areola with a vacuum device. These can range from rubber cylinders once known as “snake bite kits” (as they were purportedly used to suck venom from a snake bite for hikers caught unaware. And then men discovered they could suck them onto their nips and never looked back), to mechanical pump devices and sealable vacuum chambers.
Most commonly you’ll see nipple suckers sold on male-oriented sex tool websites, and even Amazon, which look like small rubber capsules with one end sawed off. The open end is placed over the nipple while the opposite end is squeezed, creating a suction which pulls the nipple up the length of the tube.
The suction is maintained, causing the nipple to expand, and eventually “sweat” clear lymphatic fluid. The suction and expansion cause capillary breakage and ultimately new tissue growth, so long term nipple pumping can result in permanent growth and extension of the nipple. This is very cool.
Heavily pumped nipples are sometimes referred to as dick nipples or nippledicks, in reference to the intense sensation and stimulation they produce. This sensation is often directly connected to penile stimulation and it is possible to produce orgasm and ejaculation via nipple stimulation alone.
So much of what we cover on this blog can(understandably) be considered gay. But you might be surprised to learn that is rarely ever the intention. Gay as a category or genre can be useful in finding male-focused or male-male art, comics, video, and stories. But culturally and stereotypically “gay” things are not at the heart of what we’re after here.
This can be a difficult concept to understand, particularly when viewed through our cultural perception of male physical intimacy as synonymous with gaydom.
We’re here to talk about maleness and the experience of penis-having. The relationships men have with their penises define how the see themselves and their relationship to the wider world, whether they identify as gay or straight, have sex with men or women, or are entirely solosexual. As penis guru Bruce Grether states:
Almost every man on the planet has a natural obsession with his penis. Plus, understandably every an is naturally drawn to the extraordinary sensations his penis can generate for him. In fact, your attitude toward your penis is at the core of your attitude toward yourself and how you feel about your entire life.The Secret of the Golden Phallus, p. 21
If you are someone who has a penis but doesn’t feel comfortable with a label like gay or bi or queer or questioning, let me reassure you right now: you’re home here. You are welcome. Your fascination with your penis and with the ways it connects you to all men is natural and joyful and shared.
If you are comfortable identifying as gay or bi or queer or questioning, you’re gonna have a great time here. You’ve likely cut ahead in line to becoming comfortable with your understanding of male sexuality and fraternal love in a way your fully hetero peers are not yet.
Main entry: Balls