This is going to sound like a joke, but picture me making my MOST serious face while typing all of this.
I’m inclined to start this with an apology. There are some things that, while not technically ‘off limits,’ are just not great conversation topics. And what one does in the WC is not a great conversation topic. But I think it’s time to bring it up for the good of everyone.
As part of my continued quest to put more stuff in my butt, I also think about butt stuff a lot more these days. In the past, when I would encounter a butt that wasn’t as – we’ll say – clean as it could or should have been for sexy times, my tactic was always to assume that it was an anomaly, avoid the area, and never ever discuss it.
But when you really think about it, what we do in the bathroom is a supremely isolated experience with a set of behaviors that we learn in early childhood, that are then likely never reevaluated over the course of our entire adult lives. The way we learn to wipe ourselves and clean our butts gets set at a point, and then that’s what we do forever!
It’s a different thing than how one might eat at a dinner table (using proper utensils, keeping elbows off the table, etc), because there is no social aspect to toilet time that offers the behaviors up for correction or ridicule. If you pooped in an open plan bathroom next to someone else (I’m not advocating for this – it sounds like my actual nightmare – but stay with me) that person might see you doing something strange or ineffective and suggest you try something different. But in the isolation of the stall (or your home bathroom), you just keep doing what you’ve always done whether it works well or not.
And it might not be working.
I’ve found that this tweet from years ago (that I still think about for some reason every few days) from the now suspended @michaeljhudson, says what everyone finally needs to hear about toilet paper:
To my mind, that outlines the entire flawed process in our thinking about butt hygiene. If we start thinking about washing our butts the way we wash our hands, the idea of rubbing the area with a dry sheet of paper and then putting underwear right back on after shitting, is hugely cringe-worthy. This article (ignore the eyerolly source) has been on my mind since I read it last year, and I think, while not terribly comprehensive, and a little heavy on advertising Dude Wipes, it does an ok job of raising some ideas for everyone to think about next time they’re on the toilet:
You’ve Been Wiping Your Ass Wrong Your Entire Life — Here’s The Correct Way
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By Tyler Lemco | via BroBible.com
The amount of progress we’ve made, as humans, in regard to wiping our asses, is embarrassing. It’s 2016 and the fact that we’re still shoving paper up there to clean out butthole is absurd and laughable. Look at how far technology has come in recent years — everything from computers to automobiles to video games to communication tools have evolved at warp speed. Yet, we’re still using the same technique for cleaning up post-#2 as they did on the Titanic. I just know that future cultures are going to look back at this time period and laugh at us.
At the very least, we should all be on the same page when it comes to how it’s done. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but many individuals are still not wiping their asses correctly. That individual could be YOU.
There are many different styles, techniques and variations that an individual could use for wiping their ass after making. It’s way past due that we set down some universal ground rules, because the room for error in this field is larger than you’d think. This is important, so pay attention.
The Basics
First things first; you wipe until you’re done. This may sound like a no-brainer, but I’ve heard of, and even met, some people who believe in a set number of swipes and they’re done. They just stand up and leave, regardless of their posterior’s status. I cannot stress this point enough; YOU WIPE UNTIL THERE’S NOTHING LEFT. You may ace it and take only one wipe, or it may take you 50, but your job is only complete once you wipe and see that nothing remains.
Which brings me to my next point; it’s OK to look. Some people think it’s gross to take a peek at what they’ve produced so they simply drop it into the toilet without checking. How are you supposed to even track your progress? That’s like an evil villain capturing the hero and leaving him for dead without confirming that their plans were a success. Hint — the plan is never a success! When it comes to wiping your ass, you can’t just assume. You have to stick around and make sure it goes well! So always check to be 100% confident that you’re done. Furthermore, taking a look at where you stand is a great way to estimate what kind of time commitment you’re about to embark on, as well as reminisce about that Cobb salad you had for lunch.
When wiping, it’s important to find a balance between aggressive and weak. If you go too weak, then you’re leaving yourself vulnerable to hidden nuggets that may go undetected and only pop up later in the day when you start to notice your seat smells and you’ve got some inexplicable itching. Nobody wants to have to go back in, feeling defeated, for a re-wipe. Also, you better factor new underwear into your weekly budget if you’re not using enough force. However, you can’t use too much force. We are dealing with paper here, after all. The last thing anyone wants is to be cleaning up back there and suddenly have an index finger that looks like a Twix bar. So, make sure to find your proper middle ground when wiping.
People often ask me “Tyler, how much toilet paper should I be using?” (Alright, nobody has ever actually asked me that) and I always tell them the same thing; “As much as you need.” I don’t recommend going through half a roll every time you sit down, but there is really no limit to your toilet paper usage as long as you don’t clog the toilet. A major factor in the amount of TP you go through is how many fold-overs you do per wipe. Personally, I think three folds is a fair number. This way, you’re not wasting any paper by wiping your ass with a phone book each time, but you’re also creating a fair separation between your hand and the actual muck itself. I’ve met people who use 12 feet of toilet paper per wipe and that’s just unnecessary.
The Technique
Now that the basics are out of the way, here comes the tricky part: the wiping technique. Let’s break down some of the more popular ones. For starters, there’s The Stand. I would estimate that nearly 50% of people I speak to about the subject admit to standing upright to wipe. This blows my mind. The goal is to keep the butt cheeks spread as wide open as possible during the whole process as to keep things neat and avoid any unwanted squishing. Standing, in my opinion, does just that — It smashes everything together, making it one big, awful mess to clean up.
Another popular technique is The Front Reach. I, for one, could never even dream of attempting this due to sheer size constraints. The Front Reach is when an individual, still sitting on the bowl, reaches their TP-equipped arm between their legs and deep into the bowl, reaching to the back of their ass and wiping forward. I see many issues with this technique. Firstly, I’d be petrified about reaching my arm into that dismal abyss. Who knows how large of a pile I’ve created, and I’m expected to blindly throw one of my most valuable limbs right in there? No thanks. Also, my arm is too big and the access point between my legs is too small for this to function. This is really a specialty maneuver for the smaller individuals. Moreover, I don’t condone the back-to-balls strategy (this applies to ladies as well). I’d rather push the mess farther away from my genitals, not directly at them.
My preferred technique is The Side/Lean/Tilt. If you’re a righty, you’ll want to lean your body over to the left so that your right arm can do its thing. If you’re a lefty, then it’s vice versa. I like this technique because you’re butt gets to remain at least partially on the seat, therefore you can use the bowl to keep your cheeks separated. It’s simple, its easy, and its effortless. Rather than contorting your body and reaching underneath yourself, you simply lean over and bring your hand around as if you were scratching your lower back. Just, you know, a bit lower.
In my opinion, the best practice for wiping is The Snowplow. You ever watch a snowplow work? They push the snow to one side, and then wipe it clear the other way. It’s the same principal. The wiping process starts with one major down-wipe, from back-to-balls, bringing everything down to the bottom of the driveway. Then, on wipe #2, you swipe back up, taking your base pile and everything else along the way with it. This strategy usually only requires 2-3 total wipes.
Tyler Lemco goes on from there to talk about how wet wipes are important and that you should buy Dude Wipes from Amazon, which is fine. Go check out the article and see if Dude Wipes are a thing you need in your life.
But the important takeaways from this colorful article, for our purposes, are as follows:
+ We basically live in the future now. It’s ridiculous to wipe your ass like you’re camping.
+ You need to WIPE till the paper comes back WHITE. Not “once or twice” but until there’s no shit left on you.
And for my $0.02, I want to add:
Don’t assume that a “probably good enough” mentality about anal hygiene affects only you! If you’re having sex with someone (or are even just naked around them!), that’s a part of your body that will get contact! All of your body should be getting contact if the sex is good. Just assuming it won’t come up is strange and weird and wrong.
I’ve been to jack off parties (where there’s no real butt stuff allowed) where somebody is getting worked on by a handful of guys and somebody slides an albolene-soaked hand through that dude’s crack and you (and everyone) can just smell that there’s a problem.
That should NEVER. HAPPEN. If you know you’re going to be having sex, a shower and a washing of the butthole is in order. We’ll cover that in Part 2.
Think about what you’re really doing the next time it’s time to wipe your butt, and get the job done right.
-t
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Dear Tyler, I visited your blog today – I do it every now and then – for something else and I couldn’t be any happier to have bumped into this article. Bu first, I need to congratulate you on the webdesign and the superb graphics/images you put up on your blog. It’s a pleasure to see a website that deals with this type of subject matter that doesn’t look nasty and lewd. Nothing against kinkiness, but there are just too many WWWs like that already, so your cyberspot is actually a breath of fresh air. Are you the one in charge of that? If positive, my friend, you do have a refined sense of aesthetics. Now, in what concerns the actual post, I’m glad you brought this subject up because, as you put it, no one really discuss those things and it is kind of important. Hygiene habits are so important and I cannot tell you how many times I have seen dudes leaving public restrooms without even washing their hands! Imagine the cleaning/wiping situation inside the toilet booths! Now, I was born in America but raised in Europe where bidets are extremely common and present in most homes. It’s baffling to me that in the States such item is unknown to most people. So the habit of washing up down there is common for me. Now, I’d not advocate public restrooms feature such item but every home should have one. Another thing I must point out is that one cannot be cheap when it comes to toilet paper. Like, honestly, no one can! Sometimes I’d rather clean myself up with a nail file than use some cheap ass toilet papers I find available in the supermarket and at some public restrooms. What’s wrong with people that buy cheap stuff? Also, I’m outraged that some people don’t know that you must wipe until there’s nothing left and that you should never wipe towards your balls. Like… honestly: what’s wrong with them. What I’d like to ask you to focus on Part 2 is to talk about how to properly clean the anus for proper anal sex. I’m new to this kind of practice and even though I’m a top, I’m not the type that just want to “stab it” but also go down on it. I still feel too self-conscious about digging my tongue in there and – NO – I don’t think that just water and douching is enough. So, can you please ask the elemental questions about butt tonguing without the need to visit the ER a couple days later? I’m still on that boat of people who think one can clean it as much as he wants but it won’t ever be “squeaky clean.” Educate me?