As Samantha Jones once said, these guys have “been around the block and know how to use their cock.”
Monday! This was a surprisingly difficult post to assemble, because I couldn’t seem to find just the right videos to address the specific stuff that I wanted to talk about here. It’s not really any surprise that I enjoy penising to stuff that is a step or two outside of the mainstream. And one of the things I really enjoy is finding videos of older (mature, for lack of a more delicate word. I’m talking about the dads of your traditional daddies here) guys jacking off in a happy and relatable way.
Those elements (happy/relatable) are alarmingly absent in 97% of the ‘mature’ content that I have ever come across. They’re not gone entirely, but for whatever reason it is infinitely more simple to find younger dudes showing off and sharing in ways that are less visibly… encumbered. The bulk of the old dude jack off clips that are out there are fascinating, but are not super stimulating because the guys involved look tense, uncomfortable, and almost unhappy to be doing what they’re doing. Since I don’t know about any studios that are making old guy jacks-off-at-gunpoint videos, I assume that this is simply a weird current of naturally occurring behavior.
I can’t even explain how rare it is to find a penis-eye-view video of a 60+ dude with his legs spread open while he smiles and enjoys what’s happening and wants to show and share. There’s no videos of Proudbator‘s granddad, online, I guess is what I’m saying.
My personal theory is that sex, overall, is simply quite different for people of different generations. The social taboos have shifted and changed in the last 50-60 years, the influence and significance of religious teaching about sex has certainly shifted, and the internet is a beast heretofore unseen in human history. Why would older guys create videos that looked or felt like those created by guys like me, who have internet in our blood?
Since masturbation is a form or manifestation of sex, it stands to reason that it would weigh differently on people of different ages and result in some very different pornography.
Let’s look at some examples, yeah?
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This guy is a weirdly prolific presence on Tumblr, despite not having an actual Tumblr account. I once found his XHamster (I think) account, and it featured lots of videos of him, but no additional details about where I could find him or connect on a social channel. If I’m not mistaken, he is Spanish, and his beautiful home features terraces where he casually jacks in the sun, and a television that never seems to be turned off.
He’s got a really killer dong and some great big nuts, and his physicality (and lack of tanlines) suggests that he’s probably super aware of that. He’s one of the few mature guys you’ll find who casually slings his legs wide open this way, situating the camera right at ball-level, and he masturbates like it’s the most natural, unspecial thing anyone could do. It’s great.
But he rarely smiles, and rarely seems as though he’s enjoying himself in the slightest. Even in videos where he has a companion jacking his big wang, or sucking him with abandon, his gaze is frequently fixed on the out of frame television and he seems tired and occasionally annoyed. Even in the few videos where he cums, it’s not enthusiastic or exciting. He’s just jacking and then suddenly sperm is shooting out of him while he languidly leans further into the couch or chair.
He’s hot, but uninspiring as a bator.
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This one is confounding.
Save for his face, this is a creative and weird video. I love it! A guy with a huge, floppy, beautiful penis, and proportionally huge/floppy nuts jacks his big dick proudly until he sprays all over a pane of glass he seems to have precariously balanced just for the occasion.
But his FACE is KILLING me. His teeth look as though they are permanently gritted in a tight grimace from the very second his jeans are removed, and if you watch only his face, it seems as though he might be having some sort of anesthetic-free surgery in the cropped-out reigon. Look:
Like. Dude. You’re jacking dong. What’s going on. Why is that your response to it? You look SO unhappy!
My point isn’t to ridicule this dude or to insinuate that there is a “right” way for any of this to transpire. Your bate is your bate is your bate is your bate. But this facial reaction is surprisingly common in clips of this category. Guys seem pained, uncomfortable, and very frequently, completely disconnected from what’s happening; they shut their eyes, and the stimulation becomes fast and fumbly. When they cum, it is frequently silent or accompanied by a coughing sound. There is rarely enthusiastic moaning or penisbabble of any kind.
When you contrast that against videos like these, featuring one of my favorite XTube guys:
it’s hard not to see how physically anxious and tight the older guys come off when they’re jacking.
It’s not super fair to compare them to dudes like Beau Banks (who basically has his undergraduate degree in performative sex), but I think it’s not wrong to circle back around to Proudbator as an example of the way this activity ought to play out. His enthusiasm and his genuine pleasure and pleasure for sharing are (and should be!) inspirational.
The moral of the story is, I love watching old guys masturbate. I love it. I love the idea that there is no real expiration date for penising and pleasure and for the fixation all men have with their dong. It is heartening to imagine that I might also be jacking furiously at 60, 70, or 80.
But the disconnect between the inner pleasure and the visible outside parts is stark and it makes me sad.
What do you think? Tell me in the comments.
-t
BONUS: I don’t know who this guy is, but he’s about 20 years off from being suitably featured in this post. But his style is exactly what I’m describing in the first few paragraphs. He’s making videos because it is relevant and stimulating to him to share his pleasure! This is epic and exceptional and if you know who this is, fill me in so I might attribute appropriately:
Do you like watching videos of old guys jacking off? If not, it’s probably because of the reasons I outline in this… https://t.co/55uW6XiWX6
I’m getting close in age to the guys you’re talking about here. I’m a huge fan of twink porn….but I do like at least the idea of filming and exposing myself or being watched while I’m jacking away. I love the fact that the intertoobz make it possible for sexy studs of all types to find one another and share: it’s way better than the closeted, coded, shame-filled culture I grew up gay in.
I’m glad to hear that. And what I’ll say is that I think you should film yourself and share it if you would find that appealing. I don’t know if it’s right for everyone, but if that sort of exposure is appealing to you, I encourage you to try it.
Link us in the comments if you do ?
-t
To be honest, I’ve never really been into jerk off videos for all of the reasons you outline. I can’t stand it when it’s quiet, and nobody is making any noise. I also can’t stand it when the guys fake making noise because somebody told them to. I guess I have a low threshold for bullshit, and I just want to see authentic guys enjoying themselves. When I find something like that that really pushes my buttons I can happily edge for an hour or two!
Hey Rich –
I get that. But there is a ton of authentic stuff to be found in the solo categories. I feature lots of it here. But I totally relate to the distaste for silence. It’s baffling to me how somebody is even able to do that when they bust.
-t
I know I’ve said it before but you are such a good writer. badwolfblog is, again, right on the money. so good!
So agree – Tyler is spot on
You are very kind. Thank you for reading.
-t
Once again Tyler – another great Masturbation and Penis blog. Having just turned 63 two weeks ago, I can agree and understand the basis of this piece. I love penising and I love watching (for hours) vids of other guys enjoying the pleasure their penis gives them, but there are so few mature guys that seem to show that pleasure, that bliss.
One of my thoughts around this – already expressed in a comment to a blog of yours a couple of months ago – is that older men are not only from a different period when everything around sex and sexuality was so closeted and so freely expressing your pleasure with your penis is difficult because of ingrained guilt from years ago. Another issue, is that older men are mostly seen differently by younger men, and ignored or treated with indifference.
I love going to video lounges and especially sauna baths, so that I can be with other masturbating men. Most of the time I am ignored – seen through as if I was not there, even though my legs are spread wide, cock ring on, and spending hours edging and enjoying my penis in the company of other naked men. The worst is when some twink or 20-something, mutters, makes an aside comment, or even directly addresses me, and says “Grandpas’ should stay at home!
Maybe many of the sexy mature masturbators (not enough of them online) are worried about how the younger guys are going to react to them, that they will be humiliated – the smile is forced, they don’t make eye contact with the camera, scared of showing how much pleasure their penis is giving them, because as one comment on a mature bate video on XTube that I read, was bordering on hate. The sexy, white headed grandpa with one of the biggest dicks I have ever seen, promptly closed his account and I have never seen him again.
But I can assure you Tyler, and all your readers, there are many mature men who love masturbation and would love to share and expose our pleasure for others, if only there was more acceptance and tolerance. Have a great week with your penis.
James –
I thank you for bringing this up. In all honesty, this aspect hadn’t ever even occurred to me; I suppose this is the nature of youth privilege.
In my head, I imagine that guys over, say, 50 must surely have all this sorted. It is surprising to me that someone with the audacity to wear a cockring and stroke in public would care even in the slightest what a 20 year old would think. But of course it makes perfect sense when you lay it out. Wounds are wounds, whether you are 14 or 64.
What I will share is that I don’t particularly care for or engage with guys who seem to be in attendance just for the surface validation. The Showoff Bros from this post. These guys are wastes of time and space. But I know that for every one of me there is out there, there’s 10 more guys ready to step on the egos of people they think are ‘less.’
Men who spend their time worried about whether someone is young or hot or fit or white enough to stroke or fuck around with waste all their own opportunities. Empowering them by taking their shallow critiques to heart is a mistake. An easy one to make when everyone is naked and feeling vulnerable and open to judgement. But a mistake, nonetheless.
As far as internet criticisms go, it is a mistake to read the comments. Every day, and in every way. People feel as though they have license to say anything and everything they think, and often do so simply to provoke a reaction. If you are posting videos or images and awaiting a sea of positive feedback, you better be on Bateworld, because that doesn’t happen anywhere else. Folks will tear you down for any perceived flaw, just because they can.
The reasons you should share your bate, share your pleasure, and share your penis are never going to be to bolster your own ego. It probably won’t work, even if your dong is huge and your loads epic. But it is still important to share because it helps other men see they are not alone. It helps younger men see that they are ok. That they are natural; “normal.” And because it is honest. It is a real part of who you are, and simply pretending it isn’t doesn’t change reality. Who you are when you are masturbating your penis is the same entity/spirit/person you are when you clock in at work, cook your dinner, or hug your children; compartmentalizing sex this way is in lockstep with the divided lives we all choose to lead. That we all walk around with our genitals smashed flat by terrible underwear, ashamed to acknowledge or admire the sex of our brothers, and enact this theatre that ‘masturbation is fine but nobody really does it and you should be embarrassed to be caught or discovered doing it,‘ is criminal. It destroys men, bit by bit, from their youth forward.
Men who share themselves this way are bettering themselves and bettering our collective position as men. If it is fear of humiliation that holds one back, perhaps it is due an examination of why your penis holds the power to humiliate you when viewed by others.
-t
This is my first time reading tis Blog and how I have enjoyed it. I turned 68 on Sunday and love bating. I agree with James that the older you get the more insecure a man may become. But guys remember YOU will also reach our age and then what? Must say on Facebook I have a number of young ones wanting a relationship with me. So OLDEES we must have something needed even if only experience
That’s awesome, Paul. Not the least because I imagine it was probably quite a journey to get to that place with yourself.
Happy Birthday, bro.
-t
I think you make an excellent point Tyler (and love this blog which I have just found). however I think it may be generational rather than age. I hope so anyway as I am heading toward this age group (as are we all i hope). I think the guys who are now in their 70’s and 80’s predate the sexual revolution, and come from a time when masturbation was shameful as the ONLY story about masturbation. It is remarkable they post vids at all, and yes it is a shame when anyone doesn’t enjoy masturbation to the full. I cringe when I see any man all tight and tense as they approach climax. They need to come take a tantra course and relax and breathe into their orgasms. Bate on brothers.
Thank you so much for reading and responding, John.
Your idea is interesting, and I certainly think it has merit. I would agree with the notion that my complaints are likely related to generational norms, but the rejection and stigma that men over a certain age face is often very real and very right now. That may be helping to reinforce shame-based stuff in older guys that nobody should be forced to cope with.
-t
Thanks for another great article.
You’ve motivated me to video one of my next edging sessions with more focus on sharing how pleasurable it is for me, and hopefully for the viewer as well.
That’s awesome Adam. I’m super pleased that was your takeaway.
Your bate is always fuel for other bators. Don’t try to make it porny or fake, and don’t ever hold back.
<3
-t
It is my first time on this blog, and I have been deeply motivated. I recently fell in love with an older man. In many ways you have freed me from cords of shame about my desire. And have enabled a way of existing and inhabiting this skin.