You said at one point that you felt “known.” I think that’s maybe the heart of all of this. I also think it might be what people are seeking, whether they are aware of it on any level at all, or not. Being seen and understood by someone (or many someones).
Uncomfortable Asks: Is a Male Escort the Best Way to Get Back Into Dating?
Uncomfortable Asks is my infrequent advice column, where I directly address (with permission) letters or messages sent to me in a more elaborate and thoughtful fashion than I might be able in just a regular reply. Ask your own Asks here. Dear Tyler, I’ve never been with a sex worker, and I haven’t had sex […]
On Being a Male Escort in a Time of Crisis
If you are a sex worker, particularly if you are a male-ID’d sex worker, who is struggling right now: I see you and you matter. Your work matters. And it is real work. We will get through this.
There and Back Again
Or, What I Did on my Corona Vacation. Good. Gravy. It has been quite a while since I’ve made it in here to post, hasn’t it? And my most recent returning post wasn’t even that far back in the archives. Needless to say, it’s hard work keeping this up and making time to share big […]
5 Basic (FREE) Security Steps To Protect Your Gay Ass Online
Here’s some free security stuff you can be doing day-to-day to ensure your info is a little less accessible to folks who might want to cause problems. June is Pride month (or it was when this was originally posted over at thesword.com)! But as far as we’ve come with rights and equality, there’s plenty […]
Uncomfortable Asks: Stripper Struggles
Dear Tyler, I see male escorts and dancers regularly and am quite familiar with some of them. We seem to get along well at first but they drift away and later start avoiding me. I try my best to be respectful, and take care of them. What am I doing wrong? – Anonymous Welcome, Anon. […]