Because our culture normalizes penis shame.
I’m real pissed about this one, you guys. I don’t know how big a story this is where you live, but I use an app that shows me the ten most shared stories across all social media each day (it doesn’t give me a sense of “good” journalism, but it tells me what people are talking about most), and this was slowly climbing up from 10th place when I went to bed:
A Teen Is Facing Charges For Allegedly Flashing His Dick In A School Photo
Officers say Hunter Osborn admitted to flashing his genitals during the photo on a dare and said he was “disgusted” with his actions.
There were some 69 teenage students present when the picture was taken, police told BuzzFeed News in a statement, leading officers to charge him with 69 counts of indecent exposure, a Class 1 misdemeanor.
Det. Steve Berry of the Mesa Police Department told KPHO if students older than 18 do not wish to press charges the number of counts may be reduced.
“It is still an ongoing investigation,” the detective said. “The number of charges may go up or down depending upon how the investigation continues.”
The photo was taken when Osborn was 18, Rasheta said.
Osborn did not return a request for comment from BuzzFeed News.
Oh really? He didn’t return requests to comment? That’s shocking.
This 19 year old man is learning a lesson that almost all men have had beaten into them their entire lives: your genitals are shameful.
Is it any wonder that men spend the time and energy and money they do on motorcycles and sports cars and penis enlargement pills? We’re trained, essentially from birth, that our penises are simultaneously the most important definition of who we are as men, and also that they’re SO detrimental to the fabric of society that this kid is facing a class 4 felony charge for “furnishing harmful items to minors.” His penis, in his mind, is forever going to be deemed a “harmful item.” That is a world beyond “fucked up.”
What’s already happened to this boy won’t be repaired. The dragging he’s about to receive, legally, online, and by society as a group will scar him for the rest of his life, whether he acknowledges it or not.
Is what he did socially acceptable? No. You can’t take your dick out in a school photo. Literally no one is arguing that. But what we are doing to this young man, the words we are using to define his sexuality, his body, and the effect it has on others is damaging.
Do you know why Donald Trump exists? I would wager that he is what he is right now because he has been trained that he is meant to be ashamed of the thing he has also been trained to believe defines his virility, his power, and his value as a man.
You don’t bounce back from that mirroring of your body without a lifetime of therapy and I’m embarrassed for Hunter Osborn’s school, for the police who are charging him with SEVENTY DIFFERENT CRIMES, and for Arizona as an entirety.
Your penis matters. It is not a “harmful item.” It is not a crime. You guys. We have to do better than this as men. For everybody like Hunter, who doesn’t know who or what he is yet – what he’s going to be. But who will carry around the damage of this for a lifetime, regardless.